Beloved of My Heart
Darshan Diary
by Osho
individual talks with seekers   May 1976
Pune, India
oshobob  The Living Workshop                                
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    [A sannyasin mother says she is having
    problems in her relationship: "I find myself
    being very bitchy and nagging sometimes. I
    feel I'm just asking for a fight all the time."]

    Mm mm, love always brings trouble -- and it
    has to be faced. Love cannot be always
    smooth, and it is good that it is not always
    smooth, otherwise you would not grow.

    Whenever there is a change, any sort of
    change, things will come into focus more
    clearly. When change disturbs you, all your
    inner disturbances are stirred. You are both
    feeling disturbed and both trying to throw the
    responsibility on the other. Just try to see it
    inside yourself. The other is never
    responsible. Remember that as a mantra: The
    other is never responsible....

    Just watch it ... just watch it. If you become
    wise in the moment, there will be no problem.
    This is wisdom that you get later on.
    Everybody becomes wise when the moment is
    gone. Retrospective wisdom is worthless.
    When you are picking on something, at that
    very moment become aware, and let
    awareness function. Immediately you will drop
    it.

    But when you have done everything and
    fought and nagged and bitched and then you
    become wise and see that there was no point
    in it, it is too late. It is meaningless -- you have
    done the harm. This wisdom is just pseudo-
    wisdom. It gives you a feeling as if you have
    understood. That is a trick of the ego...

                                                    – Osho
                                  Beloved of My Heart, ch. 1
    Beloved Of My Heart　

    Chinese pinyin:
    Wo xin suo ai

    Chinese traditional:
    我心所愛

    Chinese simplified:
    我心所爱